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Relationship Red Flags
If you are concerned that yourself or a family member is in an abusive, volatile relationship – here’s what to look for:
QUICK INVOLVEMENT
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6 months or less before commitment
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Claims of love at first sight
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Claims only you can make them feel this way
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Pressures you for commitment
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
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Exaggerated compliments
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Very dependent on you for all needs
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Expects you to be perfect
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Says things like, “I am all you need”, “You are all I need”
CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR
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Advises you how to dress
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Pretends concern for your safety/use of time
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Claims you are unable to make good decisions
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Extreme worry/anger when you are late
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Constantly questions you (were, when, who)
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Insists that you check in constantly
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Monitors your phone/email
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Makes you ask permission to do things
JEALOUSY
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Wants to be constantly with you
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Accuses you of cheating all the time
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Follows you around/frequently calls
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Odd behaviours like checking your car mileage, or asking friends to check in on you
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Tries to cut off all your resources
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Puts down everyone you know/stops you from seeing them
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Refuses to let you use car/talk on the phone
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Makes it difficult for you to go to work
BLAMES OTHERS
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Everything is always someone else’s fault
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You’re at fault for everything that goes wrong
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Makes you responsible for how they feel
HYPERSENSITIVITY
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Easily insulted
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Sees everything as a personal attack
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Throws tantrums about injustices
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Totally goes off about small irritations
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Looks for fights
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Blows things out of proportion
DISRESPECTFUL/CRUEL
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Punishes animals/children cruelly
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Insensitive to pain and suffering
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High expectations of children beyond their abilities
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Teases children or younger siblings until they cry
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Doesn’t treat others with respect
EXPECTS CONTROL DURING SEX
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Little concern over whether you want sex or not, uses sulking or anger to manipulate you into compliance
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Makes sexual or degrading jokes about you
RIGID GENDER ROLES
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Believes one gender is inferior to another
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Only ‘whole’ in a relationship
DR. JEKYLL AND MR. HYDE
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Sudden mood changes (two personalities)
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One minute nice/next exploding
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One minute happy/next sad
PAST BATTERING
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Previous allegations of battery or abuse which is denied or minimized
VIOLENCE
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Used as punishment
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Breaks cherished possessions
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May beat on tables with fist
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Throws objects at/around/or near you
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Physically restrains/pushes/hits or intimidates you